Children have the right to their feelings. They shouldn't be distracted or have their emotions diminished because it makes us feel uncomfortable.
It is crucial that we as parents go through the motions with them support them and acknowledge how they feel. I have found through Janet Lansbury and Magda Gerber approach of broadcasting (sportscasting) help a lot making our children feel felt and understood through time when they are in need.
Here is how we would handle a situation if you are not familiar with broadcasting : You child is upset, her friend took her toy and won’t give it back. Instead of intervening, blaming your daughter for not sharing creating shame and more tension you could say - no sarcasm allowed ; “ Maria took your teddy and you don’t like it” “I can see your are very upset, Maria is playing with your favourite toy and you want it back” by doing so, you show understanding and acknowledgement. Often, it is all our littles ones needs, to feel felt. They have the abilities to learn and resolve with our support. It builds their character and skills to cope for future conflict with dignity, respect and diplomacy.
In the worst case scenario where it might escalate you must intervene and stop - physically - a child from throwing a toy, slapping or injuring at any meaning - it should be done with calm and assertive manners.
Sportscasting shouldn't only occur when the child is facing a difficult situation. We should broadcast through everything we do with them. From birth. A nappy change should be describe step by step and allow the baby to sync the information given. Bath time as well. I saw such a difference with my daughter from doing it. She’s learning words, helping me with the process of dressing and undressing her because she's been describe countless time the procedure, it makes her feel good it also gives her a sense of dignity and trust.
One time, not so long ago I was sitting at a table with guests and coworkers of my husband. I was communicating to my daughter everything I was doing. People at the table laughed at me and said what are you saying to your 15 months old as we were having a real conversation. I then explained my concept of broadcasting and talking with my child. Some agreed and acknowledge their wives did the same with their own children.
All this will pays off in the longterm for the benefits of our kids because repetition is what they need. Recurrence is what builds their brains therefor if we rehearse love, understanding, empathy, respect in our discipline they will in the long run effectively have connections in their brains that will transmit and recreate facing any situations in their lives.
Of course we are tempted to stop any unpleasant actions or behaviour from our children in the moments. To removed them or to “make it stop” but we are enabling them to learn how deal with their emotions. Were teaching them that we are only there by their side when they are behaving and most likely we will simply put “oil on the fire” escalating the event instead of soothing it. As I previously mentioned in a earlier post connecting with them reduce tensions and stress level only then should we redirect or address the child’s behaviour.
To sum it all on a nut shell, through broadcasting we are able to create a positive environment for our children, connect, show acknowledgement to promote dignity and respect.
Beezeemum
Here is how we would handle a situation if you are not familiar with broadcasting : You child is upset, her friend took her toy and won’t give it back. Instead of intervening, blaming your daughter for not sharing creating shame and more tension you could say - no sarcasm allowed ; “ Maria took your teddy and you don’t like it” “I can see your are very upset, Maria is playing with your favourite toy and you want it back” by doing so, you show understanding and acknowledgement. Often, it is all our littles ones needs, to feel felt. They have the abilities to learn and resolve with our support. It builds their character and skills to cope for future conflict with dignity, respect and diplomacy.
In the worst case scenario where it might escalate you must intervene and stop - physically - a child from throwing a toy, slapping or injuring at any meaning - it should be done with calm and assertive manners.
Sportscasting shouldn't only occur when the child is facing a difficult situation. We should broadcast through everything we do with them. From birth. A nappy change should be describe step by step and allow the baby to sync the information given. Bath time as well. I saw such a difference with my daughter from doing it. She’s learning words, helping me with the process of dressing and undressing her because she's been describe countless time the procedure, it makes her feel good it also gives her a sense of dignity and trust.
One time, not so long ago I was sitting at a table with guests and coworkers of my husband. I was communicating to my daughter everything I was doing. People at the table laughed at me and said what are you saying to your 15 months old as we were having a real conversation. I then explained my concept of broadcasting and talking with my child. Some agreed and acknowledge their wives did the same with their own children.
All this will pays off in the longterm for the benefits of our kids because repetition is what they need. Recurrence is what builds their brains therefor if we rehearse love, understanding, empathy, respect in our discipline they will in the long run effectively have connections in their brains that will transmit and recreate facing any situations in their lives.
Of course we are tempted to stop any unpleasant actions or behaviour from our children in the moments. To removed them or to “make it stop” but we are enabling them to learn how deal with their emotions. Were teaching them that we are only there by their side when they are behaving and most likely we will simply put “oil on the fire” escalating the event instead of soothing it. As I previously mentioned in a earlier post connecting with them reduce tensions and stress level only then should we redirect or address the child’s behaviour.
To sum it all on a nut shell, through broadcasting we are able to create a positive environment for our children, connect, show acknowledgement to promote dignity and respect.
Beezeemum