Having children is like taking the biggest roller coaster of your life. It begins slowly with anticipation through pregnancy and the first few months of their life. Then you reach toddlerhood. It is like a full blown exciting and thrilling ride, beautifully design with ups and downs where for most of the time you feel at lost with all the fast events happening.
Truth is, all the informations, psychological methodology and “approach” from the knowledge you have tried to grasp pre-chaos are diffusing it’s self through glimpse of failed attempts to follow up with your so-well-thought and studied ways of dealing with crisis of a toddler having a tantrum.
Whatever aim suits your household, your personality and most importantly your children. Wether it is though love you're into or nurturing into all the needs by communication there is a breaking point where you will move away from your pre-set goals and “give in”.
So, is it all worth it to indulge on books and podcasts when we aren't successful at our attempts to be cool and collected with our children ?
I like to think so, it helps to find understanding into the child’s behaviour. Personally, I find it gives me guidance, a landmark in this pandemonium of parenthood. Truth is, we are human we have good and bad days parent or not. Adding to our daily life struggle - raising a child, we are bound to make mistakes and LOTS of them. In retrospect we think to ourselves I should of handled this situation differently BUT without the knowledge and failure we wouldn't become better at parenting.
After all isn't that the goal of being a united family, sticking together through thick and thin. Admitting to our mistakes, learning from them and making amends. Why should it be any different with smaller kids ? Why aren't we admitting to our faults and apologise to them once we've “lost control”. This is why parenting should be shame and quilt free. We should be able to have a healthy relationship with honest communication no matter how we choose to raise our children, no matter their ages.
Beezeemum