My craving for knowledge on “how to care & raise my daughter” began during my pregnancy, quite obviously... I read "a book" make that 20 ! Like most new parents about parenthood, nutrition, post - pre - pregnancy, co sleeping and psychology. Only one stood out to me (at that time) - by Carlos Gonzalez, Kiss me ! - it genuinely reenforced the way I was going to be, as mother.
I choose to co-sleep, to breastfeed furthermore to care for my daughter with all this love and free time I had. I choose to have her depend on me and only me. In insight, it was is the most rewarding and difficult decision I've ever made. We've grown so close to each other, our bond is beyond words to boot I hope it will pays off when she grows up “think every mother”. This book gave me a sense, it gave me a way and understanding that synced from within. As mums we all have this inner voice and we just know what’s best for our children's. Regardless of how our mothers raised us. Even for the majority worked out just fine but with science and new found approach and development. We have to take all the informations, see what correspond with our personalities and use it to our advantage, for our littles ones. There is not a way to do things or methodology better then the other. It is all based on our convictions, beliefs and who we are at the root of ourselves.
The F word. Failure. Is the most common fear we have, wether it is related to professional or personal level. Having children reenforce this feeling. We do not have a second chance at raising them “properly”. We want to give them our best to make sure they have everything to succeed in their life. We want them to be compassionate, treat others well, to be confidant, think for themselves, we want them to have good value, to be proud but not arrogant, to value who they are and have morals we respect and admire. The list is short but the goals are extensive. Any right person in their mind would feel the pressure and the responsibility that raising children include. That is why, we sometimes feel guilt or remorses when we don’t give our 100% because were exhausted, sick or when a fellow mother or family member is discriminating the way we do raise our child, especially with “new” or “unconventional” method. We all need to cut ourselves some loose and associate with one and other. We all want what's best for our kids. No matter the approach.
Even if we give everything we've got we cannot know for sure how our “babies”will turn out. The most important above it all is to understand who we are dealing with. Their personality, their character. Only at that moment can we address them accordingly. The chances of “successful parenthood” in raising a child within a stable, well balanced loving environment is more likely to become someone reflecting the elements in which one was brought up. Yes, there is always some diamonds in the ruff who might become even more successful through it all from lacking necessities as a human being. We cannot forget the exception to the rule. Is that what we want to based on self upon ? Do we want to look back and say : I hope he turns out okay although I wasn't there for him. I highly doubt it.
Which brings me to my last point. Balance. Most parents nowadays are often too giving in the sense of not allowing their child to fall and get up on their own. They are too involved in the development of their children. It all comes down to balance. A quote I read recently regarding this topic truly address this specific topic “Prepare your child for the road, not the road for your child.” Could not be more accurate. For most of us, growing up in complete opposite generation where our society did not encourage such positive involvement between parent&childhood. It is in our favour and our obligation to learn the equilibrium through it all. For our children to learn failure, heartache, disappointment and problem solving so that later on in their lives they have the experiences and tools to cope with what ever life throws at them.
Beezeemum
The F word. Failure. Is the most common fear we have, wether it is related to professional or personal level. Having children reenforce this feeling. We do not have a second chance at raising them “properly”. We want to give them our best to make sure they have everything to succeed in their life. We want them to be compassionate, treat others well, to be confidant, think for themselves, we want them to have good value, to be proud but not arrogant, to value who they are and have morals we respect and admire. The list is short but the goals are extensive. Any right person in their mind would feel the pressure and the responsibility that raising children include. That is why, we sometimes feel guilt or remorses when we don’t give our 100% because were exhausted, sick or when a fellow mother or family member is discriminating the way we do raise our child, especially with “new” or “unconventional” method. We all need to cut ourselves some loose and associate with one and other. We all want what's best for our kids. No matter the approach.
Even if we give everything we've got we cannot know for sure how our “babies”will turn out. The most important above it all is to understand who we are dealing with. Their personality, their character. Only at that moment can we address them accordingly. The chances of “successful parenthood” in raising a child within a stable, well balanced loving environment is more likely to become someone reflecting the elements in which one was brought up. Yes, there is always some diamonds in the ruff who might become even more successful through it all from lacking necessities as a human being. We cannot forget the exception to the rule. Is that what we want to based on self upon ? Do we want to look back and say : I hope he turns out okay although I wasn't there for him. I highly doubt it.
Which brings me to my last point. Balance. Most parents nowadays are often too giving in the sense of not allowing their child to fall and get up on their own. They are too involved in the development of their children. It all comes down to balance. A quote I read recently regarding this topic truly address this specific topic “Prepare your child for the road, not the road for your child.” Could not be more accurate. For most of us, growing up in complete opposite generation where our society did not encourage such positive involvement between parent&childhood. It is in our favour and our obligation to learn the equilibrium through it all. For our children to learn failure, heartache, disappointment and problem solving so that later on in their lives they have the experiences and tools to cope with what ever life throws at them.
Beezeemum