Today in the early morning I woke up to my daughter’s little hand tickling my forearm with her tiny fingers in her sleep. Her little warm feet up on my leg. She always like to sleep with her feet up somehow. It is amazing how from such young age they have their own thing going on. We generally take them for little cute babies which they are, very cute.
Often, we forget they are little human being and we fail to remember to treat them as such. At many occasions, people approach my girl and I when we are out on a stroll, they communicate to her in a high pitch voice “making even hard for me to not roll my eyes”. She looks at them with a very serious look, she simply isn't interested or seem confused with the way they talk to her. I always interact with her in a normal tone of voice with normal words. I believe it helps build her brain and doesn't make her feel patronised because she is “small”. They are aware of much more we led ourselves to believe. In fact, they do not have filters like we do - yet - and get all these information to process. They are more acute of what is happening then us. How tiresome must it be to have all these new data and to have all your six sense overly awake. No wonder children can get cranky, wouldn't you too ? Would you rather to have someone yelling at you on top of it all OR would you prefer being shown understanding, compassion, love and respect ?
Parenthood is hard. We are all bound to fail at some point. To make mistake or misjudge a situation. Reacting too quickly or to be unfair, which can happen in any environment of life.. Let’s take an example from a professional point of view. You're tired, you've got too much on your plate to top it off you're on a deadline and you didn't assess a situation properly, over reacted or didn't give the proper information. Either way, you made a mistake. Would you just go on about with your day without acknowledging your fault or would you admit to it, apologise for your confusion to regain trust and respect from your peers ? Why wouldn't it be okay to do so with your little one ? Why would we undermine our faults regarding our children ? Aren't they far more worth our honesty then anyone else in this world ?
By being sincere with our children at all time is truly the best way to develop a genuine relationship. Especially when we are in the wrong. There is nothing bad coming out of showing weaknesses in this matter, in fact it’s quite healthy. Exhibiting regret and sincere apology to teach authenticity, honesty and respect are great values we want our kids to learn. What better way then coming forward after a situation that we did not handle in fairness. I think it shows character, maturity and good parenting. Don’t you ?
Beezeemum
Parenthood is hard. We are all bound to fail at some point. To make mistake or misjudge a situation. Reacting too quickly or to be unfair, which can happen in any environment of life.. Let’s take an example from a professional point of view. You're tired, you've got too much on your plate to top it off you're on a deadline and you didn't assess a situation properly, over reacted or didn't give the proper information. Either way, you made a mistake. Would you just go on about with your day without acknowledging your fault or would you admit to it, apologise for your confusion to regain trust and respect from your peers ? Why wouldn't it be okay to do so with your little one ? Why would we undermine our faults regarding our children ? Aren't they far more worth our honesty then anyone else in this world ?
By being sincere with our children at all time is truly the best way to develop a genuine relationship. Especially when we are in the wrong. There is nothing bad coming out of showing weaknesses in this matter, in fact it’s quite healthy. Exhibiting regret and sincere apology to teach authenticity, honesty and respect are great values we want our kids to learn. What better way then coming forward after a situation that we did not handle in fairness. I think it shows character, maturity and good parenting. Don’t you ?
Beezeemum